Thursday, June 25, 2015

Teens And Tattoos Boys Vs Girls

Back in 2008 I Blogged about Teens and Tattoos, and to this day it is one of my top most read blog posts of all time! In that post I talked about my teenage son getting his very first tattoo, I also talked about my two little girls getting their ears pierced. Well those little girls are now the same age my son was then, and guess what? They want Tattoos!

In this day and age, we all either have, or know people who have Tattoos! Long gone are the days of my childhood where only bikers or sailors had them. :) Just like everyone from your grandma, down to newborn babies has their ears pierced now, when just a few generations ago, that used to be taboo as well. It is the culture we live in. And I for one happen to like tattoos. Of course we all know people who go overboard, just like with anything, you can get too many, the wrong kind, no meaning, or just plain bad ones!

But, just like with anything in life, when it's YOUR child who wants something, it causes you to look at it differently! Now, since my Husband and I, as well as our oldest Son, have Tattoos (my second son, will most likely NEVER have a single tattoo, it's just not him!) It was natural for my girls to talk about when they would be old enough, what Tattoos they might want to get. They have even designed a beautiful "Twin Sister" Tattoo they want to get together.

And since she was in Jr. High School, Erica has had an idea for a Tattoo that holds special meaning for her. She knew what she wanted and where she wanted it, and has been talking about this for going on 4 years now! In the State of Arizona any one can get a Tattoo at the age of 18. If you have a parent's permission, you can get one starting at 16. Erica has been begging us to let her get this Tattoo since before she was 16. We told her if she still wants it when she's 18, we'll talk about it then. Well, my girls will turn 18 at the beginning of October. The same age Kyle was when he got his!

Now as a Woman, and a Mother of Girls, I have always sung to my daughters; "Anything Boys can do, Girls can do better!" ;) Always wanting whats best for all my children, and that nothing (especially gender) would ever hold them back! Teaching them that they could be anything they wanted to be. The Bible tells us we are All created equal, and I believe that to be true. Feminism at it's finest! But, here I find myself wanting to say that even though you are the same age your brother was when he got his first Tattoo, you can't get one, because you are a Girl! Yes, I, who fight against double standards, had to fight inside myself to hold tight to my beliefs! How do I, who has taught my Daughters (and Son's for that matter) that Women are equal to Men, and deserve every opportunity afforded to men, that they can't do something, simply because they are my "Baby Girls"?! Yet, If I'm being totally Honest, that is exactly what I wanted to do! My little girls beautiful, perfect skin, would be permanently marked. Now, keep in mind that mine is, I have a little Star Tattooed on my ankle, that I love having. But this isn't me, it's my daughter.

So, knowing what it meant to her, even though it was hard, I made myself Practice what I Preach. Since she turns 18 soon, and it was just before our son's 18th Birthday that he got his, we told her the summer before her senior year was the soonest she could have it done. So the whole last month of school, all we heard was "Can we make the appointment?!" She's nothing if not persistent!



It's small, (about 4 inches long & 1 inch high, just above her wrist) If and when she's ever ready and chooses to, I will let her share the meaning behind her Tattoo and what it means to her. I will say she loves having it! And I am proud of her! And even a little bit proud of me, for—even when I didn't want to—fighting against Double Standards!


Saturday, May 23, 2015

Bachelor's Degree, But Not A Bachelor Much Longer!


My Baby Boy just Graduated . . .

 From Arizona State University!

Included on his Graduation Announcement
was his favorite quote by Albert Einstein
"Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better."

My girls decorated his car in honor of his big day!

He had to drive around all day like this! :)

 We took up an entire row in the stadium! 

 
 Zach graduated Summa Cum Laude! 
With Highest Honors!

 
Proud Parents!

 The Forbi Four! 

 
 Big Brother Kyle, and Sister In Law Katie, 
a former ASU Graduate as well!

 Little Sisters!!
Lexi & Erica!!

 With Cousin Alarie! Both now ASU Alumni!!

 Zach's Best Friend since Jr. High,
and Jordan will be graduating next year!

Our whole family with the Graduate!

To Celebrate, Zach wanted us all to see 
Avengers; Age Of Ultron together!

Party Preparation!

Graduation Party Time!!

And What's a Party without Masks? 
Here with his Cousins, Friends, Brother, and Fiance as Avengers!

And now with a Degree in Biological Sciences
Zach got a Summer Internship with Arizona Game & Fish!

He'll be in Northern Arizona at Lake Powell!
Studying Invasive Species.

He may now have his Bachelor's Degree
But he wont be a Bachelor for long,
Zach & Kendra will be getting Married this November! 
This is a Big Year for him!
Praying for a Job to quickly follow his Internship! 

Monday, May 18, 2015

Mother's Day Musings

I hope you all had an incredible Mother's Day! There is no greater calling in life than being a parent. However you become one, there is nothing like it! No Joy, or pain comparable. I will be the first to admit that I am not a perfect Mother by any means! I never had the cleanest house, but I was always the mom on the floor playing with my kids, teaching them how to dream! I would much rather be coloring than cooking! :) I was the one cheering the loudest at any sports/music/scholar event! (a loud mouth is good for something!) We love to laugh & be silly, and yet, we love to have serious, deep conversations as well. I love my family more than anything!

 
 "Good Moms let you lick the beaters . . .
Great Moms turn them off first!"

On Mother's day this year, my girls made me breakfast, we went to Church, had some lunch, then spent the rest of the day with my Mother In Law. We are so Thankful to have her & to get to spend time with her! She is sweet & loving. Not to mention that she raised an incredible son, who has become the best Husband & Father, and for that I will always be grateful. But this is about Mother's Day! So . . . back to me! :)

 
 "Home is where your Mom is!"

Mother's day, & everyday for that matter, I really miss my own Mom, who is now in Heaven. No one listens or cares like your Mother does. And no matter how old you are, you're never too old to want your Mom around are you?! So treasure the time you have with those you love. And celebrate the special days & the ordinary ones, because the time you have will never be enough.

 
 "Sometimes I open my mouth
and my Mother comes out!"


 "A Mother who radiates self-love & self-acceptance
actually vaccinates her daughter against low self-esteem"
(Naomi Wolf)

 
 "Being a Mother is learning about strength
you didn't know you had
and dealing with fears
you didn't know existed."
(Linda Wooten)

 
"By the time a Woman realizes her Mother was right
she has a Daughter that thinks she's wrong!" 

 "I'll love you forever, 
I'll like you for always, 
As long as I'm living, 
My baby you'll be." 


 "Life doesn't come with a Manual;
it comes with a Mother."

 "Behind every good kid
is a Great Mom!"

 "I smile because you are my Mother, 
I laugh because there is nothing you can do about it!"

 "Mothers hold 
their child's hand for a moment
and their heart
for a lifetime."

 "The most important thing 
she'd learned over the years
was that there was no way
to be a Perfect Mother,
and a million ways
to be a Great one."
(Jill Churchill)

Monday, May 4, 2015

Prom Queens!!!

 

 

 

 

This is my Daughter's Jr. Year of High School, which means Prom! It was a bittersweet moment for me. I love seeing them grow up and have fun doing it! We had so much fun planning, shopping for dresses and shoes, getting hair and make-up ideas! Yet, I felt a little bit of sadness too, they are not my little princesses twirling around in their dresses any longer, they are beautiful, strong young women! And I've loved every moment of it all!


 

They brought their Best Friend, Maddie, whom they met at Church right before they all started Kindergarten, and have been BFF's ever since! Maddie and her family are planning on moving to Aurba after she graduates next year. :( So the three girls decided they wanted to spend their Prom nights together. So the plan is they all go to Erica & Lexi's School this year & to Maddie's next year. There were no boys in the picture this year (Yay!) but, we'll see if that may change next year & throw a little kink in the plans. ;)

 


They had a great Theme for this years Prom, it was "Under The Tuscan Sun" So we wanted a place to take pictures that went along with that theme. And I remembered several years ago we had taken some family photo's at a really cool place that had a lot of pillars & a fountain, so we decided to find that place again. And we were really happy with the results!


And of course the Proud Parents had to get in on the pictures! :)
 


Lovely Lexi . . .



 Elegant Erica . . .

 


Magnificent Maddie . . .

 

 

Oops, who jumped in the photo?! :) 



Three very Beautiful, Smart, Funny, Strong and Fun girls! And what a great way to celebrate their Friendship! They had a great time, taking photo's, eating out at The Cheesecake Factory, Dancing the night away, and Making Memories that will last a lifetime!